Popularity is for losers!!!

If there is a day whereby I don't regret watching TV shows, it is today. I am not one to have lazy days, and even if I have lazy days, I never use them to watch TV shows. I'd prefer to read until am totally lost in the fiction world. Today, though, I felt so lazy to read. So I urged myself to watch something, anything interesting. The lucky TV show to get my attention was, drumroll, is 'Awkward!'

I enjoyed many episodes from that TV show, but nothing can really keep my attention for long. So I gave it a break and continued to pore on my long list of novels that I haven't yet finished. I am such an introvert; that, a good book is more interesting than a social encounter. I seriously need to work on that, but am trying to, though.

The episode interestingly talked about: how it feels to be popular, how the cyber-life really is and what is the best kind of social life to pursue.

How it feels to be popular

The episode depicted how a girl climbed the social ladder and instantaneously became popular. At first it felt so interesting for her, but things took a different toll. Popularity seems interesting when you view it as a third person. It doesn't mean that the one who is popular gets things easily. The girl thought that being popular is going to change her life, but really it doesn't. One would feel that being popular can make you feel different or not be the same person, but it doesn't, you'll still be you. 

I like to think of popularity as a career. Because you just don't wake up from your bed and say that I want to be popular. Even if you were born popular, you have to nourish it or else you'll fall out of the radar. Popularity entails every little thing you do. It includes stuff like: who you date, how you talk, walk, how you treat people, and in general, who you are as a person. Because popularity entails who you are as a person you need to change who you are to get the type of crowd you seek attention from.

The risk of being popular is that you will reach a point where you will lose yourself, and God forbid, you forget who you are. I am not saying that popularity is bad, but I am saying that if you can be popular and still be genuinely happy, then go for it!

How the cyber-life really is!

The cyber-life is such a fickle thing. It used to make me so insecure that I felt that I am no good. When people post pictures about their life and it makes you think if you are even living. One of my friends used to say that he can't stand people in Instagram because they were so self-centered. He used to say,''How can people post many selfies like that? They are so self-absorbed.'' What he used to complain is that people use Instagram to show off their life. People don't use Instagram to be proud of nature; maybe, just take a picture of an animal or scenery. Although he was a bit extreme, I get his point.

In the episode, it showed that the newly popular girl was invited to a get together with the popular kids. The funny thing is, the get together was really boring. She was also forced to kiss college guys just for show. To cover up for their boring time, they took selfies while smiling. It's like they wanted to make the world believe that they are having a great time while thy are not. How pathetic!

This also happens in real life. People use the cyber-world to make people believe that they are living in their own little fairytale while they are not. People post incredible pictures, portraying their incredible life, but most of it is just a lie! 

I used to feel so bad about having a sad, boring and plain lifestyle, and the cyber-world aggravated the situation. The thing I didn't know is that it doesn't necessarily mean that people are happy because of the pictures they post. After all, people want to give out their best side to the public. They won't care if it is true or the lengths they go to prove to the world that they are living a fantastic life. When all the facade comes down, they are like you and me. 

Don't get me wrong, but what I want to say is that you shouldn't feel bad because someone seems to have an interesting life in cyber-world. We shouldn't feel bad because we don't post the awe-striking pictures like other people do. Because in private, at least most of them, are like you and me!

Best kind of social life to pursue

If you have friends that will always love you through lengths of trials, then you have enough. If your normal life brings you popularity, enjoy it, but don't forget the little few who love you no matter what. Actually they are the ones that will constantly help you to figure out yourself in the best possible way.

Don't lose yourself, cause that is what that make you different from millions of people passing through the world. And popularity is such a fickle thing, you can't put it down on a complete lockdown. 

So live life in a way that portrays you in the best way possible. Let you inside sync with your outside...

Cheers guys!

My New Approach In Life

I am as rigid as one could be. I never want to do something that is out of the line or not really conventional. I love to do things that are curtailed down to schedule, and improvisation isn't one of my great of suits. This shouldn't be a problem to many; after all, being able to stay in a plan is good for success. But that isn't the same for me.

Because everything in my life is planned down on a paper, or my phone goal list, I don't like the idea of things not going the way I want. But that is pathetic because I can't be in control of things in my life. As Stephen Covey stressed, there are some things that are out of my zone of influence. I focus much on my concerns, which most of them are not in my zone of influence.

The situation gets out of hand sometimes. I have a tendency of discrediting myself when I fail to do things that I planned. There are somethings that I can not control, but if they don't go seemingly as I would want them to go, I feel like a total failure. 

Although this is an internal struggle, I am such a control freak. If possible, I would like to play God! I want to be able to control the way other people feel about me. I hate the thought of people falling out with me. I guess that is why I go out of my way to try and please everyone. It reached a time where I tried to put human emotions and reactions down to a science. I did that for a long time. If someone becomes rude to me, I feel that my qualities as a human are being downgraded. I feel the same way regardless the relationship I have with that person. I usually believe if I just controlled some patterns I could change the results(people's reactions), but I sadly figured out that humans aren't creatures of logic. 

I tried to use logic and well-planned action paths to ensure that I get the results that will have a win-win result. But I terribly failed! And I don't take failure so lightly. Failure hurts my ego. And a man without his ego is as better as dead! Emotionally dead not really dead!

To save myself, I had to find myself. And that is what I did.

Today was such a long day! I wanted to have a new approach that won't leave me as empty as the old one frequently left me.

I started by stimulating different emotions in me. I use music to guide me through every emotion...

The process was as follows:

1. I start by hitting rock bottom. This is a point whereby I make myself so low that I cry. I cry as if I lost something or something threatens my being. I remember the situation that makes me not happy and heighten it. It's like blowing the situation out of proportion. I use the following songs to do that: a) Photograph by Ed Sheeran, b) Fault in our stars by Troy Sivan, c) The scientist by Coldplay, d) White horse and last kiss by Taylor Swift and lastly, Tonight I want to cry by Keith Urban
2. After I hit rock bottom I find songs that will neutralize the situation. I do this because I usually don't want to make life altering decisions while I feel down. To do this, I listen to pump up songs. I use the following songs to pump myself up: a) 7/11 and love on top by Beyonce, b) Uptown funk by Bruno Mars c) Feeling Myself by Nicki Minaj d) Postcards by James Blunt e) Want to want me by Jason Derulo and lastly, Beauty and the beat by Justin Bieber.
3. Then, I use nature simulated sounds. Sounds like: birds chirping, ocean waves or thunderstorm. I use an app in the play store to get these sounds. At this point, I get to the diffused mode of thinking then make my new resolutions and approaches.
4. Lastly, I use motivational songs to prove to myself that I will stick to the new resolution. I use three songs for this. One is I was Here By Beyonce, the second is Don't rain on my Parade by Glee cast, and last is Defying gravity by Glee cast.

The resolution I got today is that I need to love myself. On how I plan to do that, I'll talk about it on the next blog post.